I was a guest on a podcast. Here’s what it taught me

People saw me on The Dalina Show and said, “You’ve changed so much.”
It’s a global women’s podcast that reaches tens of thousands every week, honest, raw conversations about resilience, identity, and change.
Being invited felt surreal. For a moment, it looked like an arrival.

But what they saw was just the visible layer.
The truth is, the work that changed me never made it to a camera.
It happened in the dark mornings before sunrise, in the quiet choices no one noticed, when I didn’t want to do it, and did it anyway.

No one talks about the work that doesn’t look like progress.
The mornings you don’t scroll. The nights you don’t numb.
The choices that don’t impress anyone, but quietly rewrite who you are.

Transformation doesn’t happen in breakthroughs.
It happens in repetitions.
In small, unremarkable moments that build proof long before the results show up.

So if no one’s noticing your effort, keep going.
Discipline built in private always shows up in public, just on a delay.

What’s your invisible work right now, the thing no one sees but you keep doing anyway?

Each week, I’ll share 3 things that have genuinely helped me, small shifts across the three pillars of ConfigurSelf: mindset, habits, and health. The kind of things that have made a real difference in my own life, and that I’d happily recommend to a close friend.

I didn’t expect movement this small to matter.
It’s a Gubii foot mover that hums quietly under my desk while I work from home, a kind of mechanical heartbeat keeping everything flowing.

Hours of sitting used to leave me heavy, foggy, and cold from the knees down.
This changed that. The gentle back-and-forth motion keeps blood circulating through the legs, reducing stiffness and fatigue while engaging the lower muscles just enough to remind the body it’s still part of the day.

It’s not the kind of workout you plan for; it’s the kind that fits around everything else.
Emails, writing, calls, all with a quiet rhythm of movement underneath.

It’s a fitness gadget, but one that works in the background quietly, constantly, and almost forgettable.
And maybe that’s the point: the best habits are the ones that stop feeling like effort and start feeling like rhythm.

This is the one I have.

I didn’t expect to relate to a book about greatness.
For most of my life, that word felt loud, like something other people chased in stadiums or boardrooms, not in kitchens and late-night thinking.

But this one was different.
Lewis Howes doesn’t write about achieving more. He writes about unmasking, the slow, private process of shedding the identities you built for safety so you can finally grow for truth.

It’s not motivation; it’s excavation.
The kind that makes you pause mid-page because a sentence sounds too much like your own internal voice, the one you’ve been ignoring.

What stayed with me wasn’t the success stories, but the stillness underneath them.
That greatness isn’t noise or visibility. It’s a quiet alignment between who you are and what you keep showing up for when no one’s watching. Listen to the audiobook here.

I used to think legacy was something you built later, after the career, after the milestones, after you’d finally figured yourself out.
But lately I’ve realised it’s already happening, quietly, in the background.

It’s in the tone I use when I’m tired.
In how I handle frustration when no one’s there to praise my patience.
In the small things, my daughters copy without meaning to, how I start my morning, how I end the day, how I return after I fall apart.

Legacy isn’t a speech. It’s an atmosphere.
The invisible lessons people absorb just by watching you live.

And maybe that’s the truest kind of influence, the kind that never tries to teach, but still does.

I’ve been writing these pieces in the quiet, between school runs, work, and late-night thinking, but I’ve started sharing more of the journey in real time too.
The reflections, the systems, the messier parts of reinvention that never make it into the newsletter.

If you want to follow along, you’ll find me here:
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Come say hi. It’s less about followers, more about finding the others who are doing the invisible work too.

If something in this email made you pause, think, or feel seen, send it to a friend who’s been quietly trying to make a change, too.
You never know what might land at the right moment. Link here.

And if you’d like early access to the eBook I’m writing, the real systems, mindset shifts, and habits that helped me lose 50kg and rebuild my health, you can join the waiting list here. “You’re not behind. You’re building, and that takes time.”